The Starting Gate

I hear from a number of adults that they feel that it is too late for them to begin to learn to play music.  I always tell them that it is never too late to start learning.  I started playing guitar when I was eighteen years old.  I had played in the school band at age thirteen and started playing electric bass at age fifteen.

From what I have seen, on average, my start was relatively late.  I have met a lot of people who started learning music earlier than I.  Most of them stopped playing and learning for one reason or another.

Sometimes, I think: ‘Holy Cow! Imagine if all these people kept playing!’  I probably would not be much competition for them.  Not that my true feelings in music are competitive, but work is work and livelihoods are always competitive in some way.

Frankly, the world would probably be a better place if fewer people quit music because they were getting a job and a family.  A job and a family seem to be good reasons for continuing to develop musically.

My youngest daughter, Claire, and I have been working on some songs that she can sing while I play guitar.  Earlier today, we made some videos of her singing and I have posted them on YouTube.  She will probably get tons more ‘Views’ than I ever have, but she is far more cute and talented.


Cuttin’ Loose

A few recent events have given me reason to ‘adjust some relationships’, so to speak.  Essentially, I have decided what I will and will not expose myself to lower my chances of disappointment.

What I have lost is a bit of bad stress.

One example is an organization, and not the only one in my career, that inquired of my work as a teacher and then used our discussion to develop a class that did not use me as the instructor.  I had a phone contact with this organization today, and a follow-up Project Plan was requested of me.  I did follow-up, but my e-mail was a statement that I would not be sending any information that could be used without me and a request to contact me when this organization is willing to hire me.

In the advertising/promotions industry, this is referred to as ‘giving away the cow’.  You know the saying: ‘Why buy the cow when the milk is free?’  I have given away the cow a few times, and that is completely my fault.

My purpose in each of these examples is certainly NOT the burning of bridges.  Rather, the objective is to establish a relationship that is more emotionally intelligent; a way for us to continue to have our relationship with ‘controls’ in place to avoid negative events or feelings.

Emotionally Intelligent Signage is an interesting concept that I found recently that makes Emotional Intelligence easier to apply.  As an example, here is a way to rearrange our speech without diminishing the point: Sign at Beach

How can you change the dynamic of a relationship by softly drawing lines and improving how you feel?