A few recent events have given me reason to ‘adjust some relationships’, so to speak. Essentially, I have decided what I will and will not expose myself to lower my chances of disappointment.
What I have lost is a bit of bad stress.
One example is an organization, and not the only one in my career, that inquired of my work as a teacher and then used our discussion to develop a class that did not use me as the instructor. I had a phone contact with this organization today, and a follow-up Project Plan was requested of me. I did follow-up, but my e-mail was a statement that I would not be sending any information that could be used without me and a request to contact me when this organization is willing to hire me.
In the advertising/promotions industry, this is referred to as ‘giving away the cow’. You know the saying: ‘Why buy the cow when the milk is free?’ I have given away the cow a few times, and that is completely my fault.
My purpose in each of these examples is certainly NOT the burning of bridges. Rather, the objective is to establish a relationship that is more emotionally intelligent; a way for us to continue to have our relationship with ‘controls’ in place to avoid negative events or feelings.
Emotionally Intelligent Signage is an interesting concept that I found recently that makes Emotional Intelligence easier to apply. As an example, here is a way to rearrange our speech without diminishing the point: Sign at Beach
How can you change the dynamic of a relationship by softly drawing lines and improving how you feel?